A wealth of personal & professional experiences of deeply-rooted & complex issues contributes to making me an effective therapist for a wide range of concerns. I have a passion for helping clients to recover & be free from what holds them back in life. I work hard to create the right conditions for growth & change. 

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My core training is a BA (Hons) in Person-Centred Counselling & Psychotherapy from University of Warwick. This was a high-quality degree based on the work of Carl Rogers, and other humanistic psychologists such as Abraham Maslow. Rooted in the teachings of Paulo Freire, the course of study was deeply experiential and underpinned by the philosophical theories of existentialism and phenomenology.  

In addition to being grounded in a person-centred approach, I have experience of working with a number of different models and theories in a variety of clinical settings. At times, I find these are helpful when working with specific issues - particularly for child sexual abuse, complex trauma, domestic abuse including coercive control, and addictions. 

An accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), I work to standards specified by the BACP Ethical Framework for Good Practice. My membership is registered on the BACP register of counsellors and psychotherapists

I work in private practice in London and in Nottingham - click on those locations for availability and fees. I also work by Skype, and I offer walk & talk therapy in outdoor spaces. Additionally, I offer intensive therapy over weekends in peaceful countryside and coastal locations where you arrive on a Friday and leave Sunday lunchtime. This can be a helpful way of either making a start on long-term work if you have a big story that you need to tell when the weekly 50 minute therapy hour doesn't get you far. More often, this kind of intensive work reflects the type of ongoing recovery therapy and support that is usual when you have been in residential rehabilitation for drug and alcohol misuse. I have worked as a therapist on both prison drug rehabilitation programmes and in exclusive residential addiction treatment centres. My weekend prices start from £450 including accommodation. 

In addition to my counselling training, I have an MSc in psychology and a PhD in psychology and behavioural sciences, in which I located my understanding of people from a social psychology perspective.  I studied the lack of support for mothers separated from their children in a context of domestic abuse and, for my doctorate, I developed a training programme to improve professionals' responses to mothers living apart from their children. You can read about my research here. If you are a mother separated from your child/children, I can provide specialised therapy in London, Nottingham or by Skype so contact me if you'd like to discuss your needs. If you are a practitioner working in this field and would like to know more about reflective supervision please read here for for more information.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose a response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
— Victor E. Frankl

I specialise in the following areas:

Relationship problems

Identity and existential issues

Depression & anxiety

Drug & alcohol problems

Food-related issues and body dysmorphia

Loss and grief


As a humanistic counsellor, I work from a relational approach, which has benefits for a wide range of relationship issues. From the perspective of a humanistic approach, which is antithetical to the current dominant medical model of the NHS, I don't diagnose and 'treat' clients. If you have been diagnosed with a mental health problem or personality disorder, our work together will likely focus on you as a unique individual rather than your diagnosis/label. Here, I use the dominant language of the current system, e.g. I state I work with depression and anxiety even though I don't use these terms myself. This is by way of shorthand for a person who might not have begun to think about their issues outside of the diagnosis/label applied to them and because it can be difficult for prospective clients to find the right therapist for them without using the dominant language. 

I am trained in Irvin Yalom's interpersonal group therapy and have also run support groups for mothers living apart from their children, especially when this has been intentionally engineered by coercive controllers through the family courts. I understand a wide range of relationship difficulties rooted in families of origin when there has been abuse and trauma. I can facilitate parent-child reunion when there has been estrangement/alienation.

I have additional expertise through research and experience in the following areas:

Coercive control

Family violence/domestic abuse

Parent-child separation and reunion

Maternal alienation

Disenfranchised grief

Complex trauma

Childhood sexual abuse